Sunday, August 10, 2008

The Bedding Down

While researching Polish traditions that I could potentially incorporate into the wedding, I stumbled across a fascinating book in the folklore section of my university library. I was pumped to see it had an entire section devoted to Polish wedding traditions. The excerpt I share below is definitely ancient and I have been assured by a few different Poles that no one does this anymore, but it's so hilarious that I couldn't resist sharing it with all of you.

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Pokładziny-The Bedding Down


In ancient times, putting the bridal pair to bed was a normal and expected part of the marriage customs, and was down with much joking and hilarity. The young couple were directed by the entire wedding party to a room that had been specially prepared for them. The swat, still overseeing that all went according to custom, placed himself on the marriage bed to "warm it up". The womenfolk jumped up and down on the bed to make sure it could hold up and now break down. Rocks or sharp straw or thorns might have been placed underneath the sheets. The swat and swata then chased everyone out of the room and took the bride and groom to the bed and left them alone. The door was locked behind them and after serenading the bridal couple with some very warm and bawdy songs, along with vodka toasts and admonitions "not to be lazy," the couple were left alone.
The next morning, musicians awake the couple and gave them kasza cooked in milk and vodka that had been dyed red as a sign of lost virginity. The sheets were inspected for the expected stain that meant the loss of virginity. This made everybody happy and was the cause of more singing and dancing.
From "Polish Customs, Traditions and Folklore" by Sophie Hodorowicz Knab

At my wedding there will be no warnings against being lazy, and the best man isn't coming anywhere near our hotel room to warm things up for us.

'Fess up my friends, are there any traditions in your own culture that have you shaking your head in bewilderment?

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